On saying yes and saying no

In the lives of those who are trying to help others and or trying to be successful there is a sort of unspoken debate about yes and no.

Here’s what I mean:

  1. Have Firm Boundaries
    Learn to say no. If you do too much you’ll run yourself ragged, give people unhealthy expectations, be spread too thin to do anything with excellence, and have very little leisure time.
  2. Be Helpful
    Say yes to everything. If you say yes you’ll have more opportunities, be sought more often, have more adventures, learn new skills, and meet new people.

The “if-then” statements above are obviously not certainties. I know people who say, “No” or said it so frequently that they aren’t asked to do anything. And I know people who say yes frequently to the same group of manipulative users that keep them from growing.

More anon.

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